From: Barry Kort Subject: My Father Passed Away Last Night To: dept41@bbn.com, dept41-consultants@bbn.com, oc@musenet.org, mentor@musenet.org, len@cognex.com, roz@media.mit.edu, landrigan@cae.uml.edu, mari@musenet.org Date: Mon, 21 Apr 1997 15:55:48 -0400 (EDT) Cc: jhines@eeunix.ee.usm.maine.edu, jellis@eeunix.ee.usm.maine.edu, dungeon@sanders.com, debsterk@aol.com, rmkort@aol.com Greetings Friends, My Father passed away at 11:30 Sunday night, April 20, after a 6-month battle with esophogeal cancer. He was 84. I was at his bedside almost continually since my arrival in Indianapolis. My brother, Steve, and my Mother were at his side until a few minutes before he died. My Mother held his hand as we recited prayers for Peace and Comfort, Love and Compassion, Wisdom and Understanding, Strength and Courage, Grace and Forgiveness, Joy and Thankfulness. He died peacefully and quietly 10 minutes later, with 2 nurses and myself at his side. Being with my Father during his final days has been an emotionally uplifting and healing experience for me, as we communed with each other and reached closure. He died with his family at his side, knowing he was loved. I've learned a great deal about nurturing, compassion, kindness and healing, especially spiritual healing. I am grateful for the many warm messages of support from friends at BBN, MuseNet, USM, and the larger community around Boston and the Internet. Your prayers and warm wishes brought me great strength and serenity during this vigil. I expect to return to Boston at the end of the week, or early next week to resume the work we began 6 years ago, and to expand the scope of our outreach to promote education and emotional well-being to an ever-expanding community. Thank you all. May the blessings of peace be with you, each and every one. Barry ==================================================================== Date: Mon, 21 Apr 1997 16:13:06 -0400 (EDT) To: Barry Kort From: mmather@bbn.com (Mary Anne Mather) Subject: Re: My Father Passed Away Last Night Barry, Thank you for sharing the experience of your father's death. It helps us all understand better that dying is a part of living and how important our "connections" to one another are. Mary Anne Mather Co-NECT Schools Educational Technologies Dept. BBN 70 Fawcett Street Cambridge, MA 02138 617/873-4195 ==================================================================== Date: Mon, 21 Apr 1997 16:24:01 -0400 (EDT) To: Barry Kort From: fharik@bbn.com (Fadia Harik) Subject: Re: My Father Passed Away Last Night Dear Barry Please accept my symapthy and prayers. I appreciate so much what you shared with all of us. I have "walked the path" so to speak with my sister who died from cancer several years ago in Bloomington In. I have always felt grateful for her sharing her dying process with me and all the healing and understanding I came to experience through her. I have a feeling that your father has given you that gift too. May the gift keep growing and may the love ease the sorrow. Fadia Harik Voice: 873-3009 ==================================================================== Date: Mon, 21 Apr 1997 16:26:26 -0400 (EDT) From: Rosemary Ceravolo To: Barry Kort cc: ceravolo@intac.com Subject: Re: My Father Passed Away Last Night Dear Barry, My deepest thoughts of consolation and hope are with you and your family on the loss of your dear Father. I'm sure your grief will be somewhat lightened in the days to come, by knowing his spirit lives on in you and your continuing works of great value on this earth. Sempre, Rosemary/Monad ==================================================================== From: "John & Jomil Mulvey" To: "Barry Kort" Subject: Re: My Father Passed Away Last Night Date: Mon, 21 Apr 1997 13:29:57 -0700 Love and peace be yours, Barry- we will continue to pray for you! Love, Jomu ==================================================================== Date: Mon, 21 Apr 1997 16:32:51 -0400 To: Barry Kort From: albert@husc.harvard.edu (David Albert) Subject: Re: My Father Passed Away Last Night Hi Barry, I have been thinking a lot about you this week. I hope you know how much we all care about you. I don't really know what to say except that my thoughts are still with you, and I hope to see you soon. I will be out of town at the end of the week (and next Saturday), but will talk to you soon. Perhaps I'll see you at the museum in 2 weeks. David ---------------------------------------------------------------------------- David Albert :: albert@fas.harvard.edu http://www.fas.harvard.edu/~albert ==================================================================== Date: Mon, 21 Apr 1997 16:34:47 -0400 To: Barry Kort From: phorwitz@bbn.com (Paul Horwitz) Subject: Re: My Father Passed Away Last Night Sounds like things worked out pretty well, Barry, all things considered. I'm glad you had time to be with your father before he died, and that he knew that you were with him. That means a lot -- to both of you. Take your time coming back. We miss you, but you're needed where you are, too. I'll look forward eagerly to seeing you, nevertheless. Paul ==================================================================== Date: Mon, 21 Apr 1997 16:48:13 -0400 To: Barry Kort From: Nick Haddad Subject: Strength and Courage, and more Thank you, Barry. Thank you for sharing the news of your loss, and expressing yourself in such a thoughtful way. You overcame this cold-gray medium to touch our hearts ... but I guess that is one of the things you had already mastered. I wish you well as you 're-group' and move forward in a world which is different for you. Nick Nick Haddad Voice: 617-873-5354 Staff Scientist FAX: 617-873-2455 BBN Systems and Technologies e-mail: nhaddad@bbn.com Educational Technologies Dept. 70 Fawcett Street Cambridge, MA 02138 ==================================================================== Date: Mon, 21 Apr 1997 16:59:12 -0400 To: Barry Kort From: Dave Landrigan Subject: Re: My Father Passed Away Last Night At 03:55 PM 4/21/97 -0400, Barry wrote: >Greetings Friends, >My Father passed away at 11:30 Sunday night, April 20 Barry, Thanks for sharing. Your news is both sad and glad. It's good to hear that your and your family's experiences have been as good as they possibly can be at a time like this. See you when you return! Dave ==================================================================== Date: Mon, 21 Apr 1997 17:30:34 -0400 (EDT) To: Barry Kort From: ethomas@bbn.com (Eric Thomas) Subject: Re: My Father Passed Away Last Night Barry, I am sorry to hear about your father's death. My prayers are with you. Best, Eric Eric D. Thomas Field Representative School Restructuring Services/Co-NECT Schools BBN 70 Fawcett St. Cambridge, MA 02138 Voice (617) 873-2628 Fax (617) 873-2455 ==================================================================== Date: 21 Apr 97 17:42:08 EDT From: Noah.J.Wexo@Dartmouth.EDU (Noah J. Wexo) Reply-To: NJW@Dartmouth.EDU (NJW) Subject: Peace To: bkort@musenet.org Hello, Barry. Lisa Silverman forwarded me the message concerning your father's death. It was a very moving message. I lend you my condolences for your loss but find joy in the love and healing you and your family shared with him your whole lives until your father's passing. Peace be with you, my friend. Noah Wexo ==================================================================== Date: Mon, 21 Apr 1997 16:47:43 -0500 To: Barry Kort From: ecrowder@bbn.com (Elaine Crowder) Subject: Re: My Father Passed Away Last Night Hi Barry, I hadn't sent email earlier because I didn't know whether you could receive it (you indicated you wouldn't have access). But you've been in my thoughts and prayers. It sounds like being there has been hard but has given you the opportunity to work through the initial stages in the multifaceted process of grieving for a loved father. I'm glad you were able to be with him when he died. I'm glad for the gift of closure. Shalom, Elaine ______________ Elaine Crowder, Ph. D. Applied Linguist BBN 70 Fawcett St. Cambridge, MA 02138 617-873-4606 FAX 617-873-2455 ecrowder@bbn.com ==================================================================== Date: Mon, 21 Apr 1997 17:38:42 -0500 To: Barry Kort From: Wally Feurzeig Subject: Re: My Father Passed Away Last Night Cc: nfeurzei@csc.com, feurzeig@bbn.com Barry, As you know, I recently lost my mother. She was a truly giving and loving person, a very dear lady. So I have some feeling for your grief and sense of loss. I think they may impact even more intensely at unexpected times during the next days when you are hit by a sudden memory, if your experience is like mine. Please offer my sympathy and best wishes to your family. Be well, Wally P.S. When you return I'll bring you up to date on some interesting work with Function Machines that I hope we'll be doing together in the near future. Wally Feurzeig Principal Scientist, Educational Technologies feurzeig@bbn.com BBN, 70 Fawcett Street, Cambridge, MA 02138 Phone: 617-873-3448 FAX: 617-873-2455 ==================================================================== Date: Mon, 21 Apr 1997 21:00:03 -0400 (EDT) From: John Hines Subject: miracles To: Barry Kort Barry Your father waited until Passover. . . A beautiful moment to let go. . . I'm pleased you stayed with him all the way. . . Windows of deep memory will open for you now. . . Capture them. . .they may never return again. . . Cling to all the grace of his life . . his death . . your life. . . You have been waiting for this deep transformation. . . Life knows its way if we trust it. . . Your father was a good man, Barry. . . Your goodness reveals him. . . Honor him . . honor him with the good life you lead. . . Stay the course against all the shadows of darkness. . . You are a good man, Barry. . . I'm deeply delighted that you have extended your friendship. . . I offer my consolations. . . I wish you peace . . peace . . peace. . . Bless you John ==================================================================== From: "Roz W. Picard" Date: Mon, 21 Apr 1997 21:22:22 -0400 To: bkort@musenet.org Subject: Re: My Father Passed Away Last Night Cc: len@cognex.com Dear Barry, Please accept our sympathy at this time of your father's passing. It is so good you are there, and were there with him when he died. You and your family will remain in our prayers during this time of transition. Barry, we'd like to send a little something -- would flowers be ok, or would you prefer something different? We will send to the Grinnell St. address you gave us unless you indicate otherwise. It was good talking to you yesterday; we miss you here, and our thoughts and prayers are close. With love, Roz & Len ==================================================================== From: Barry Kort Subject: Re: My Father Passed Away Last Night To: picard@media.mit.edu (Roz W. Picard) Date: Tue, 22 Apr 1997 12:43:11 -0400 (EDT) Cc: bkort@musenet.org, len@cognex.com Hi Roz, > Please accept our sympathy at this time of your father's passing. > It is so good you are there, and were there with him when he died. > You and your family will remain in our prayers during this time > of transition. Thank you so much for your warm wishes and your prayers. > Barry, we'd like to send a little something -- would flowers be ok, > or would you prefer something different? We will send to the > Grinnell St. address you gave us unless you indicate otherwise. My Mother would prefer a potted plant rather than cut flowers. She likes to garden and enjoys working with her plants. The address is Estelle Kort 9544 Grinnell Street Indianapolis IN 46268 > It was good talking to you yesterday; we miss you here, and our > thoughts and prayers are close. Your love and your prayers are a great source of strength to me. Last night at the Passover Seder, my brother asked me to recite a prayer for Father. I had you and Len in mind as I found the words to thank God for the life that my Father had been blessed with. You are an inspiration to me in this Spiritual Journey. Love, Barry ==================================================================== Date: Mon, 21 Apr 1997 22:57:45 -0400 (EDT) From: Kate Stange To: Barry Kort Subject: Re: My Father Passed Away Last Night > Thank you all. May the blessings of peace be with you, each and > every one. And with you, Barry. My thoughts are with you. Love, Kate. ~~~~~~~~~Kate Stange~~~~~~~~ ~~~~~~~Kate@Stange.com~~~~~~ http://www.musenet.org/~nef/ ==================================================================== Date: Tue, 22 Apr 1997 00:06:57 -0500 To: Barry Kort From: Bruce Goldberg Subject: Re: My Father Passed Away Last Night Barry, I was sorry to hear of your father's death and hope that your being with him during this time will bring you some of the comfort, peace and understanding you gave him. Bruce Bruce Goldberg Director, Co-NECT, & Divisional Scientist Educational Technologies Dept. BBN 70 Fawcett Street Cambridge, MA 02138 Voice: (617)-873-2683 FAX: (617)-873-2455 ==================================================================== From: mkanter@netcom.com (Martha Kanter) Subject: Re: My Father Passed Away Last Night To: bkort@musenet.org (Barry Kort) Date: Mon, 21 Apr 1997 23:40:32 -0700 (PDT) Barry May God be with your father and with you. I was in Boston last week, having lost my grandmother. I felt similarly, and remembered losing my dad two years ago. It sounded like you did most everything you could have and for that be grateful. Love, Star ==================================================================== Date: Tue, 22 Apr 1997 03:13:27 -0400 (EDT) From: Nancy Williams To: Barry Kort cc: moonbeam@musenet.org Subject: Love and healing go with you I left words for you on Micro, but you may lose them in spam unless you are good at fishing. I was gone all day again, in Salt Lake -- didn't get word of your Dad until midnight. How I wish I was there to hug you and hear you tell of the miracles I know you experienced at his passing. You were an instrument of peace for your whole family, Barry. You brought healing and joy to your father, and ministered love and compassion to everyone at Hoover Wood. Best of all, in your giving you learned to receive. I rejoice for you and thank God for your life. Love and peace be with you, Moonbeam ==================================================================== Date: Tue, 22 Apr 1997 06:47:01 -0400 To: Barry Kort From: Beverly Hunter Subject: Re: My Father Passed Away Last Night My thoughts and prayers are with you, Barry. Beverly Hunter Program Manager, Educational Technology Systems BBN Systems & Technologies Division 70 Fawcett Street Cambridge, MA 02138 http://copernicus.bbn.com ==================================================================== Date: Tue, 22 Apr 1997 07:43:37 -0400 (EDT) To: Barry Kort From: jschwartz@bbn.com (Joyce Schwartz) Subject: Re: My Father Passed Away Last Night Barry I just got back from vacation and read your message about your father. I'm so sorry to hear of his ordeal, but happy for him and you that he was surrounded by family when he died. We all know that family is, no matter what else happens to you in your life, the most important part of living. Take care. We are all thinking of you Joyce Joyce Schwartz, Ph.D. BBN Systems and Technologies BBN 70 Fawcett Street Cambridge, Ma 02138 phone:(617) 873-2817 fax: (617) 873-2455 e-mail: jschwartz@bbn.com ==================================================================== From: Connie Lindsey Subject: Re: My Father Passed Away Last Night To: bkort@musenet.org (Barry Kort) Date: Tue, 22 Apr 1997 07:45:41 -0400 (EDT) Barry -- Thank you for including me in your mailing about your father. I hoped it would be exactly as you described it was, a time of nurturing and drawing closer, and emotionally healing, as well. It was like that for me when my father died. We were also able to care for him at home. A hospice worker came for what turned out to be the last night, and helped us all come to terms with things -- different for each of us, but all coming together in a good way. Peaceful, as you described. I'm glad for you that despite the sadness, good came out of it for you and your family. I'm also glad that you have renewed strength to continue the good works that you're doing for others! Love, Connie (Ibis) ==================================================================== Date: Tue, 22 Apr 1997 08:31:05 -0400 To: Barry Kort From: Melanie Goldman Subject: Re: My Father Passed Away Last Night Barry: I am sorry to hear of your father's death. It is hard to find words to describe the feelings you must be having. I know that your father has been sick for a long time and that it has been very difficult. I will look forward to your return to BBN and having you work with us on the events for the National School Network. It is always a pleasure to work with you. Your depth of knowledge and your abilities are much valued. Melanie Melanie Goldman Co-Principal Investigator National School Network BBN, Corp. 70 Fawcett Street Cambridge, MA 02138 617 873 4653 mgoldman@bbn.com http://nsn.bbn.com ==================================================================== Date: Tue, 22 Apr 1997 08:34:52 -0400 To: Barry Kort From: Web Dove Subject: Re: My Father Passed Away Last Night My thoughts go out to you Barry. Web ==================================================================== Date: Tue, 22 Apr 1997 09:28:51 -0400 To: Barry Kort From: Diana Nunnaley Subject: Re: My Father Passed Away Last Night Barry, My condolences in your loss but having just gone through a similar kind of uplifting at my uncle's memorial service in Oregon I celebrate life and new beginnings with you. My uncle passed away April 1 in Oregon and going there to see what he has created and to meet two cousins whom I've not seen since we were small children was extremely uplifting. We were able to laugh and be so hopeful as we celebrated my uncle's life. Diana Diana Nunnaley Director National Program Development Co-NECT Schools BBN 70 Fawcett Street Cambridge, MA 02138 Voice: (617) 873-3919 FAX: (617) 873-2455 ==================================================================== Date: Tue, 22 Apr 1997 08:54:40 -0500 To: Barry Kort From: rschacht@bbn.com (Ron Schachter) Subject: Re: My Father Passed Away Last Night Hi Barry, I just received your message and wanted to share my condolences. It sounds like the last weeks have been a time of great family strength to which your presence contributed greatly. My thoughts are with you. Ron ==================================================================== Date: Tue, 22 Apr 1997 09:54:51 -0400 To: Barry Kort From: David Reider Subject: My Father Passed Away Last Night Barry, Peace with you and all your family. David ==================================================================== From: AERRaymond@aol.com Date: Tue, 22 Apr 1997 11:13:39 -0400 (EDT) To: bkort@musenet.org Subject: Re: My Father Passed Away Last Night Barry My thoughts are with you at this time of your loss. I pray the Lord will provide you and your family with the strength you need at this time. Randy Raymond ==================================================================== Date: Tue, 22 Apr 1997 11:35:11 -0400 (EDT) To: Barry Kort From: dwatt@copernicus.bbn.com (Dan Watt) Subject: Re: My Father Passed Away Last Night Thanks for your very complete message. I had the opportunity to be with my father at the moment of his death from gastric cancer three years ago, and I know both the peace and healing, and the sense of loss that come from such a fundamnetal transition in one's life. My best to you. Dan Watt ********************************************************************* Daniel Lynn Watt (Dan Watt) Educational Technologies Department Senior Research Associate BBN Systems and Technologies Education Development Center 70 Fawcett St. 55 Chapel St. Cambridge MA 02140 Newton MA 02158 617-873-5128 617-969-7100x2713 Dwatt@copernicus.bbn.com DanW@edc.org ==================================================================== From: Rob Reilly Subject: Re: My Father Passed Away Last Night To: bkort@musenet.org (Barry Kort) Date: Tue, 22 Apr 1997 12:41:38 -0400 (EDT) Hello Barry, > My Father passed away at 11:30 Sunday night, April 20, after a > 6-month battle with esophogeal cancer. He was 84. Mary and I send our support and love. > Being with my Father during his final days has been an emotionally > uplifting and healing experience for me, as we communed with each > other and reached closure. He died with his family at his side, > knowing he was loved. Things seem to have a agenda of their own in this universe. > I've learned a great deal about nurturing, compassion, kindness > and healing, especially spiritual healing. Your father's gift to you in his last moments may be something that will change your path/attitude through this life. -Rob- ==================================================================== Date: Tue, 22 Apr 1997 15:13:52 -0400 To: Barry Kort From: grignett@bbn.com (Mario C Grignetti) Subject: Re: My Father Passed Away Last Night Barry, I am very sorry to hear about your father's passing away. He must have been a very good person indeed to have fathered such a son. Your message moved me a great deal. May peace be with you. Mario ==================================================================== Date: Tue, 22 Apr 1997 14:20:02 -0500 To: Barry Kort From: csiska@copernicus.bbn.com (Clare Siska) Subject: Re: My Father Passed Away Last Night Barry, we have not worked together much, but your presence has been missed in the hallways of Dept. 41. Having been through the loss of my mother to cancer many years ago, I feel for your loss and I hope the spring will bring you comfort. Some thoughts by Gibran: ...and when you were a silent word upon life's quivering lips, I, too, was there, another silent word. Then life uttered us and we came down the years Throbbing with memories of yesterday and with longing for tomorrow... For yesterday was death conquered, and tomorrow was birth pursued. Clare Siska Senior Editor/Project Manager Full Spectrum Multimedia Group BBN Educational Technologies BBN 14/2C voice:617-873-2194 70 Fawcett Street fax: 617/873-2455 Cambridge, MA 02138 csiska@copernicus.bbn.com ==================================================================== Date: Tue, 22 Apr 1997 14:42:37 -0700 From: Jim Challis Organization: Sedona Internet Services, Inc. To: bkort@musenet.org Subject: Time of Passing Barry; Nancy posted your message about your Dad's passing. It was a beautiful message. It reminded me of Ram Dass' telling of his experience during his Dad's last days on his audio tape, "Death is Not an Outrage". I found it comforting to me. Perhaps you have heard this, or read Ram Dass on this topic. Please accept my condolences and I pray for you and your family. Sincerely, a Cafe friend and fellow educator, Jim Challis ==================================================================== Date: Tue, 22 Apr 1997 19:53:06 -0500 To: Barry Kort From: collins@bbn.com (Allan Collins) Subject: Re: My Father Passed Away Last Night Hi Barry I am glad you got to be with your father toward the end. My father died quite suddenly so I was in Boston when it happened. It will be a long period of grieving for you, and let me know if I can help in any way. One of the new Learning Sciences students here at Northwestern named Matt Brown has been volunteering with a program in Chicago high school where they fix old computers. I told him about you and may have in get in touch. Also I have students are looking at learning communities in MUDs who may come to you for info. I was thinking you might run a program in a vocational school where they fix old computers and recycle them in the schools. My best wishes Allan ==================================================================== Date: Thu, 24 Apr 1997 13:05:46 -0400 To: bkort@musenet.org From: Drew Hammond Subject: Hello Hi Barry, I recently ran across your notes regarding the loss of your father. This May will be the 2 year anniversary of the loss of my father. I can certainly empathize with you and my heart goes out to you. - Drew _________________________________________________ Drew Hammond dhammond@bbn.com BBN Corporation Phone: 617-873-4966 Business Solutions 125 CambridgePark Drive, 21/6 Cambridge MA 02140 FAX: 617-873-2087 ==================================================================== Date: Thu, 24 Apr 1997 13:23:14 -0400 To: bkort@musenet.org From: mari@musenet.org (Mari Ryan) Subject: Your Father's Passing Dear Barry, Arrived home from Toronto to learn of your father's passing. You have been and will continue to be in my heart and in my prayers during these days of intensity and transition. Your experience was a blessed one for all of the family. How graced you are to have been with him and to share his moment of passing. Praying and sharing with your family during these holy days speak of the context of who you are. I look forward to seeing you very soon. Love and blessings, Mari Mari ==================================================================== From: ender@chezmoto.ai.mit.edu (Timothy H-J. Yao) Subject: Sympathy To: bkort@musenet.org (Barry Kort) Date: Thu, 24 Apr 1997 14:01:51 -0400 (EDT) Barry, I was much saddened to hear the news of your father's illness and final passing. Your messages of courage, hope, spirituality and healing are very much appreciated. I have two other friends from school who lost their fathers last summer to cancers. My own parents are both elderly and I often worry about them and their mortality. I can only hope that when their times come, I will be able to help them and my family through those events with as much grace, courage and wisdom as you have. --Tim -- In Virtual Life: \ In Real Life: Ender (ender@chezmoto.ai.mit.edu) | Dr. Timothy H-J. Yao A Director of MicroMUSE | Sr. Research Engineer Principal Author, Charter & Bylaws \ Aon Risk Technologies ==================================================================== Date: Thu, 24 Apr 1997 18:55:24 -0400 To: Barry Kort From: grignett@bbn.com (Mario C Grignetti) Subject: Re: My Father Passed Away Last Night Dear Barry, Mario shared your message about your Father's death. I was deeply moved by it. I wanted to extend my deepest sympathy to you and to say I am very happy that you and your family and most especially your Dad could be in such profound connection with each other. Yours sincerely, Jane Barnett Grignetti ==================================================================== Date: Sat, 26 Apr 1997 20:11:08 -0400 To: Barry Kort From: dklemmer@puck.rosaparks.cambridge.k12.ma.us (Dan Klemmer) Subject: Re: My Father's Passing... Hi Barry, Thank you for the notification and it sounds like you were able to give your father a wonderful farewell. The loss of a loved and loving parent is beyond any verbal description. Carlos Casteneda (him again) wrote that this loss opens up a hole in us that closes ever so slowly. A personal take on my father's death was that it was a final lesson that he left for me. And in this lesson was the message to cherish life and to continually find its heart-beat. Barry, I look forward to seeing you soon. My sincere condolences to you and of course your maw and family. Dan K ==================================================================== Date: Mon, 28 Apr 1997 04:12:12 +0100 From: Anne-Marie White To: bkort@musenet.org Subject: --- There's not much to say at times like these, Barry. I'm sorry to hear about your father. I've been thinking of you both a great deal. I'm glad that you both had those precious days of closeness. They mean so much, and you will have that time for ever. It will help to carry you forward. You are in my thoughts and heart right now. I wish I could help... Anne-Marie ==================================================================== Date: Mon, 28 Apr 1997 11:49:05 +0100 To: Barry Kort From: Kyle Shannon Subject: Re: My Father Has Passed Away Dear Barry, My sincerest condolances go out to you and your family. The healing that you speak of sounds very powerful. I am honored to be on a list where your insights have reached me. If you are planning to attend Jerry's weekend this year, I look forward to sharing some more time with you. The three days last summer were a pleasure and a privilege. My thoughts and love is with you. Sincerely Kyle Shannon ================================================================== Kyle Shannon AGENCY.COM 665 Broadway, 9th Floor New York, NY 10012 P: (212) 358-8220 F: (212) 358-8255 http://www.agency.com/ ================================================================== ==================================================================== Date: Mon, 28 Apr 1997 12:05:48 -0400 To: Barry Kort From: Janice Gjertsen Subject: Re: My Father Has Passed Away Barry - I am so sorry to hear about your father. The circle of life and the witnessing of the entering and passing of souls within these physical forms have always moved me. The birth and death of the human body is a glorious and wonderous experience. I am so moved by your experience below. Much love and peace to you, your father and your family. Janice At 10:18 AM 4/27/97 -0400, you wrote: >Greetings Friends, >My Father passed away at 11:30 Sunday night, April 20, after a 6-month >battle with esophogeal cancer. He was 84. I was at his bedside almost >continually since my arrival in Indianapolis. My brother, Steve, and >my Mother were at his side until a few minutes before he died. My Mother >held his hand as we recited prayers for Peace and Comfort, Love and >Compassion, Wisdom and Understanding, Strength and Courage, Grace and >Forgiveness, Joy and Thankfulness. >He died peacefully and quietly 10 minutes later, with 2 nurses and >myself at his side. >Being with my Father during his final days has been an emotionally >uplifting and healing experience for me, as we communed with each >other and reached closure. He died with his family at his side, >knowing he was loved. >I've learned a great deal about nurturing, compassion, kindness and >healing, especially spiritual healing. >I am grateful for the many warm messages of support from friends at >BBN, MuseNet, USM, and the larger community around Boston and the >Internet. Your prayers and warm wishes brought me great strength >and serenity during this vigil. >The Obituary, Eulogy, and dozens of messages of love, comfort, and >peace may be found on my Web pages at http://www.musenet.org/~bkort. >I am grateful to my online communities for their warm messages of >comfort and support which brought me great strength during this >vigil and time of mourning. Those of you who read the regular >conferences on Cafe Utne will find many references to this Spiritual >Journey as I wove my experiences here in Indianapolis into the >discussions there in Philosophy, Spirit, and BodyMind. >I expect to return to Boston in a few days to resume the work we >began 6 years ago, and to expand the scope of our outreach to >promote education and emotional well-being to an ever-expanding >community. >Thank you all. May the blessings of peace be with you, each and >every one. >Barry -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- Janice Gjertsen Director Business Development Digital City New York v:212.620.6100 x124 f:212.620.6224 a:32 w 22 st, ny ny 10010 To do something, however small, to make others happier and better is the highest ambition, the most elevating hope, which can inspire a human being. - John Lobbock - -- http://www.totalny.com -- http://www.spanker.com -- http://www.adaweb.com -- http://www.primarygroup.com -- AOL Keyword: Digital City -- ==================================================================== Date: Mon, 28 Apr 1997 13:34:40 -0400 (EDT) From: Kate Stange To: Barry Kort Subject: Re: Thank You > I have posted a memorial to my Father on my Web page at > http://www.musenet.org/~bkort I've taken a look at it. The Eulogy was beautiful, and I feel as if I know your father a little now. I'm glad you were able to be there with your family at such an important time. Continuing to think of you, Kate. ~~~~~~~~~Kate Stange~~~~~~~~ ~~~~~~~Kate@Stange.com~~~~~~ http://www.musenet.org/~nef/ ==================================================================== Date: Mon, 28 Apr 1997 11:13:45 -0700 To: Barry Kort From: Howard Greenstein Subject: Re: My Father Has Passed Away Barry, I'm saddened by your loss, and heartened that you were able to make you final days with your father uplifting ones. May the Lord grant peace to him, and to you who are bereaved. Howard ==================================================================== Date: Tue, 29 Apr 1997 10:29:07 -0400 From: CAROL WILDER To: bkort@copernicus.bbn.com Barry, thank you for the moving account of your father's passing. Carol ==================================================================== To: Barry Kort From: holds@bbn.com (Henry Olds) Subject: Re: My Father Passed Away Last Night Dear Barry, I am saddened to hear of your father's death and know how deeply moving the experience has been for you. But it is also good to hear of your warm and close sharing of his final moments with him and with your family. I just want to add my warm, supportive wishes to those of others and to send you healing, renewing energy as you move forward. I look forward to your returning to work with us. Henry ==================================================================== From: Mark Bonchek To: Barry Kort Subject: Re: My Father Has Passed Away Date: Wed, 30 Apr 1997 10:09:49 -0400 Barry Please accept my condolences on your father's passage. Given the spirit, generosity, and courage that you bring to everything you do, I know that your father must have been a great man. You honor him with your words. I am active in the Sterling men's organization here in Boston, and much of what we do is about honoring our fathers, healing ourselves and each other, and honorably creating, maintaining, and passing along the legacy of men who have come before us. We have an email distribution list on which we often share our thoughts and sentiments during times such as your own. I would like to pass your message along to the men, as I know they would appreciate your heartfelt words. Would that be all right with you? And if they have any words of support, would you like to receive them? I wanted to check with you first. Fondly, Mark Bonchek ==================================================================== Subject: Re: My Father Has Passed Away To: MBonchek@Amulet.com (Mark Bonchek) Date: Wed, 30 Apr 1997 19:46:10 -0400 (EDT) Cc: bkort@musenet.org (Barry Kort) Hi Mark, > Please accept my condolences on your father's passage. Given the > spirit, generosity, and courage that you bring to everything you do, > I know that your father must have been a great man. You honor him > with your words. Thank you Mark. My father has indeed been an inspiration and a role model to me, and I hope to continue honoring him through my ongoing work in science, research, and educational technology. > I am active in the Sterling men's organization here in Boston, and > much of what we do is about honoring our fathers, healing ourselves > and each other, and honorably creating, maintaining, and passing > along the legacy of men who have come before us. That sounds interesting to me. I am also interested in a broader kind of healing -- sometimes called 'Tikun Olam' -- Healing the World. > We have an email distribution list on which we often share our > thoughts and sentiments during times such as your own. I would > like to pass your message along to the men, as I know they would > appreciate your heartfelt words. Would that be all right with you? > And if they have any words of support, would you like to receive > them? I wanted to check with you first. > Fondly, > Mark Bonchek Yes, please do. The messages which I continue to receive are posted on my Web site at http://www.musenet.org/~bkort under the paragraph on my Father's passing. I invite the members of the Sterling Community to view those and pass along their own messages, which I will also post. Regards, Barry ==================================================================== Date: Wed, 30 Apr 1997 16:19:14 -0700 (PDT) From: "Randall T. Swimm" To: kort@well.com Subject: Re: Personal Barry, I'm so sorry to learn of your father's death. My mother died last October, and I feel that I'm only recovering from that loss even now. Hang in there, Barry. Randy ==================================================================== Date: Wed, 30 Apr 1997 20:29:19 -0700 (PDT) From: David Mathes To: kort@well.com Subject: Re: Winning The Battle Sorry to hear about your father. My sympathy is with you and your Mother in this time of sorrow. May he rest in peace. Dave ==================================================================== Date: Fri, 02 May 1997 11:36:24 -0400 From: Andrew B Jones Organization: BBN Corp. To: Barry Kort CC: Andrew B Jones Subject: Re: Periodic Table Barry, My sympathies for your loss. It's always surprising to me how the dead can visit us through the words of Rabbis, priests, friends, books.... My wife is a poet. She became fascinated with the periodic table and we have one hanging up at home. I think that she finds comfort in the simplicity of the elements and an almost poetic struture to the table. Years ago, when I ordered the table from Elsevier for her, a tech writer here at BBN recommended Levi's book to me. This sort of thing has a way of coming back around. I didn't realize that it was in our collection until after your call. I'm glad that it's here. Best, Andy Jones